I think your post gives light to why you haven't met women who match your views of women's sexuality.
You are assuming way too much. My sex life has been terrific as has those of my partners. You will not find a more considerate, attentive or sensitive lover than I and any woman I have been with would tell you the same.
Most of my life was spent with a wife whom I adored and whom I was entirely faithful to until her passing.
My current lover is much younger and highly sexual (by her account far more than most) but not even close to the level of a young man.