I'm sure the wives would be thrilled to know what hubby has been up to, assuming this is true.That would be quite an assumption, much like the one that says 10% of the population is gay, or the one that "homophobes" are really self-hating gays.
Sounds to me like someone wanting to normalize his own aberrant behavior.
Just south of San Francisco on highway 280 is a scenic vista / rest area. It has a beautiful view of the watershed area and is only accessible from the freeway. Except for me, who could ride thru on my mtn bike on my way to other places via a trail. whenever I passed thru I got the weirdest feeling from all the guys sitting in their cars ostensibly reading newspapers or eating lunch, but in actuality giving me creepy looks and hoping for a gay sex hook-up.
I asked my gay acquaintance why they don't just go to the bath houses for their dose of hairy gay butt, and he said it's because that's where the married men go for their butt piracy, so as to keep it on the down low.