What a person values are the things that he believes to be true and good. If they were neither true and good but simply indifferent and of no higher value than anything else, then there would be no point in having values.
I am definitely not a relativist. I believe that there is right and wrong and that my parents raised me to know the difference. Yes.
Quick, stop the presses! Who'd a thunk?
I know many people who choose their spouse based on how fun that person is, or how physically attractive that person is or how successful that person is. I think it's hard to argue against the fact that many, perhaps most, people are not careful in choosing.
The smug part of your posts are your insinuations that your values are clearly and demonstrably superior to other peoples' values.