My ex hasnt seen the kids since 2002...and now that he's married a convicted/registered sex offender, he wont! I have it set up through the courts, he has to have visits with my oldest (daughter) supervised only! The courts will allow him to have an unsupervised visit for 8 hours with my son...but his wife can't be there or he and she goes to jail!
He also hasn't paid child support in a long time. I got 5 payments (2 1/2 months worth) last year...and 1 payment (1/2 a month) this year.
Mind didn't pay support for years. In the end, he owed a mint. The courts were on his back, so I let him pay a dime on the dollar. I would never force anyone to be where he didn't want to be!
I'm sorry that your kids' dad is so stupid. I'm glad that your kids are out of his life. You'll have a family for life; and he'll end up wondering why he doesn't. As with anything, we get out of it what we put into it.
it is rather rare for a woman to be a registered (convicted) sex offender. What did she do, do you know?