I agree, the media punishes those who compartmentalize their trauma and continue to function.
Strangely, countless movies about this type of human (once referred to as heroic) are common and hugely popular and the most popular tv show 24 is about someone exactly like that.
I get really tired of the criticisms of the parents that their behavior wasn't "normal" when what they really mean is that they don't think they'd behave that way, so the Ramseys shouldn't have either. As if the indiviual criticizing is the arbiter of normality. Arrgh!