I agree with your assessment. Something puzzling was going on in that house:
1.) Patsy and Burke's fingerprints were all over the bowl of pineapple which we know was the last thing Jonbenet ate. The bowl was taken down from a high shelf. If not taken down by Patsy or the intruder, then who?
2.) How did Patsy's jacket fibers end up entwined in the ligature, on the inside of the tape that covered jonbenet's mouth, and ALSO in the paint tray from which the stick to make the ligature was used? She said she never wore that jacket down there.
3.) Why, according to pathologists, was the tape put over Jonbenet's mouth AFTER she died?
4.) Why were both Patsy and John apparently wearing the same clothes they had on the night before?
5.) Why did Patsy claim that Burke was asleep during the morning of the discovery of the ransom note when he was clearly heard on the 911 tape? What did he mean by saying "but what did I do" and "but what did you find"?
6.) Why was a 45 lb. girl dragged?
7.) The coroner pinned her time of death very close to 10 p.m. How did an intruder, by virtue of the theory, botch a kidnapping (and thus write a long, 3 page rambling note), THEN kill her all between about 10:30 and 11 p.m. that night? By all appearances of forensics, the note was written after she died, not before. That defies the intruder theory. Even if he was already in the house when they got home he would have had to kill jonbenet at about the same time they walked in the door.
8.) What type of blow to the head would an intruder likely put on the child's head that would not create a laceration? An intruder in the bathtub? Why?
That's too much basic forensic evidence to ignore, regardless of what we may conjecture about how the Ramseys thought or what they would have done in x or y situations.
Interesting.
So the family returned around 10 and that is roughly JB's time of death? She was asleep in the car, correct, and they carried her to bed? Could she have already wet herself maybe still in the car, and this was discovered upon arrival at home? Just wondering.
I do not understand the quote by Burke on the tape. Could he have been shunted out of the rooms where any planning or searching or arguing or anything was going on, and he was wondering "what he did" to get sent away? (Hey, what did I do?" is a common refrain for kids getting sent to another room.)