I am the most shy person you'll ever meet.. hell I had an anxiety attack right before the first date with my wife! I remember that day like it was yesterday... after a couple of minutes doing breathing exercises, I headed out to meet my future wife and take her out for dinner and the movies.
you know what got me the love of my life?
determination, respect, love, honesty, manners, and being a gentleman at every opportunity... the rest is history.
Interesting. Being a thrill addicted, adrenaline loving bad boy is what attracted my wife to me, and 15 years later, it's still working.