If I were searching for women, Emo's would not have been my first choice.
How about Fitzgerald's? The Abyss? Urban Art Bar?
Here's a blast from the past for you . . . I met my husband at Cardi's.
Wow, Cardi's was fun.
I would go to Urban Art Bar, Q, Last Concert Cafe, La Carafe, Dick's Last Stand, Blue Planet, Crystal, Woodies Ice House, Woodrow's, Rich's, 8-O's, basically any place that had local rock bands, and any place that had good dance music.