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your friend sounds very lonely, gullible & not too bright worldly wise...I guess it will be the school of hard knocks for him along the way. It must break your heart to be able to see this happening & look at it objectively.

The rose colored glasses of lust/love/neediness really throw things off

Anything you say will be construed as jealousy possibly.

Perhaps their salvation would be too really work on finding a home business they can do together. My niece earns about 1000/mo selling things on e-bay. she buys at thrift places, garage sales etc. She has 5 kids is only 34 & loves being home. Her hubby has job/benefits but it doesn't go far with that large a family (and they all have mega medical problems)

Yesh, I know, I think he feels like he wants to put this on the fast track because he will be 41 plus his mom is on dialysis. Even so, there is a very wrong way to go about it. I don't say much because it's his life plus I don't want to lose him as a buddy. Maybe it's me, but I have been in business for myself for a bit a while back and I liked it better when I went back to more of a 9 to 5 world. When you are in business for yourself, you're basically "on call" 24 hours a day it seems, me, I like to know the time to quit and know I can leave my problems at the office for me to tackle the next day, unless it is crunch time, then it is time for overtime, but that is very rare. I know to know when I leave work, I'm flying on my own time, no one elses.

"your friend sounds very lonely, gullible & not too bright worldly wise...I guess it will be the school of hard knocks for him along the way. It must break your heart to be able to see this happening & look at it objectively. "

You know, looking on the bright side of things, at least she moved to be with him. And it doesn't seem like he's really had to give anything up for the girl at this point. I'd give him props for having the girl come here.

I've heard horror stories on the Internet and from an acquaintance about women and men just picking up their lives and moving to another state or country to live with someone they met on the Internet and how it turned out so badly.

At least your friend has the upper hand and maybe at 41 he is just taking a wild chance. Give him support, and I LOVE DollyCali's idea about the home business. If she can't work legally in the country, then online is a good place. If she becomes a drag on your friend financially, then its time to say something, IMHO of course.