Memo to all mistresses (stop fooling yourself: he'll never leave his wife)

The Times Online (UK) ^ | 1/17/06 | Jonathan Gornall

[MadCharity]

My husband and I made a pact before we got married, that if there were any thoughts or desires to be with someone else, we would come to the other and discuss it.

We vowed to be faithful to each other til death do us part. Hence the reason we are "married".

[DesScorp]

... because there are ALOT of women out there cheating on their hubby's

Yup...there are far more women cheating than men ever suspect. Especially as they get into their thirties and early forties.

[PaulaB]

After you said that, it got me to thinking.

My grandmother and grandfather (he was much older) loved each other

but after his death years ago, I do think she

she felt some freedom. After 8 kids, 16 grandkids she was tired.

[PaulaB]

Men do get the butt end of this. Yes there are

many many many women cheating. Unfortunately!!

[Fierce Allegiance]

Be grateful, very, very grateful you have never heard of her. A 5 hour trip to Vermont with only 1 cd mom just bought can drive one to near suicide.

[SuzanneWeeks]

Me too. :)
I would have slapped the b*tch. I hate snottitude

Suz

[TomSmedley]

And now, like I said, in my real life, I can't think of an older woman who has said she likes being married.

I really am sorry for them. My luscious frisky playmate (50 years old, on the wrong side of 200 lbs.) acts like an infatuated teenager, and keeps me thoroughly "entertained." (Did I mention that we've been married for 27+ years?)

[heartwood]

Well, my gr. aunt married three times (was widowed twice) and she was a lively fun-loving rhymes with witch. She just liked a man's company. I saw bitterness in my grandparents' marriage and my husband's grandparents' marriage, but so much love, tenderness, respect and enjoyment in the 67 year marriage of another gr. aunt and uncle. And that is what I'm aiming for - plus a few more, God willing. Married 23 years and don't even want to think how lonely I'd be without him.

[najida]

I'm happy for both of you!

I hear lots of these stories on the internet and once and a while in RL.

But when I sit down and really think, you guys are a rarity...so you're even more fortunate for that :)

[PaulaB]

LOL

[Tijeras_Slim]

A 5 hour trip to Vermont with only 1 cd mom just bought can drive one to near suicide.

Why do you think those things are shaped like little frizbees?

[PaulaB]

and she was a lively fun-loving rhymes with witch

ROFL
sorry couldn't even read the rest after this line

[GovernmentShrinker]

Where in this long rambling piece of nonsense does the author provide even a hint of evidence for his main thesis, which is that mistresses want to be wives? Most wives are wives because they choose to be wives, and most mistresses are mistresses because they choose to be mistresses.

[Fenris6]

As a result, they can’t just shag somebody else’s husband; they have to try to take him away from her. How many men do you know who have put their lives on hold in the hope that a married woman they are shagging will give up her hearth and home to be with them?

You think the mistress is putting her life on hold for the sex?

[GovernmentShrinker]

Who says her life is "on hold"? That IS her life. In big cities, the mistress is sometimes living in a fancy apartment rented or purchased for her by the man (and per some NYC real estate agents, sometimes even purchased in her name), has plenty of money from the man and/or from inheritance or even from her own career, has a tremendous amount of freedom, and can walk away from it all whenever she gets bored with it. Many, many women -- not just mistresses -- don't regard their lives as "on hold" waiting to get married and have babies.

[Fenris6]

Who says her life is "on hold"?

The author. You asked where did the author imply that mistresses want to be wives. This is getting circular.

[bmwcyle]

thought to myself "I may be driving a POS car and work a crappy job, but at least i know where MY husband is on a saturday night. And once, I knew where YOURS was, too".

To bad you could not speak up. I would have loved to see her face.

[samiam1972]

My grandmother is one of those women. Her husband died before my parents were married. My mom was 17 at the time. I've heard so many stories about what a wonderful, fun-loving man my grandpa was. I liked to believe that grandma was so in love with him that she could never marry another man. It's only about 25% of that. The other 75% is that she really hates men! I learned that after I grew up. She's a crazy old woman!

[carlr]

The chances are that if a reasonably attractive woman is single by her late thirties/early forties, then it is because at some point in the past she has hitched herself to a married man.

I would like to think that this is not a true statement.