Why do you ask a question when both answers are no. Stupid polls are never needed and prove nothing.
It is not a poll, but rather a philisophical question designed to discern what is most important to a parent.
Ah my dear BMWC, both answers are no to what? Say it was a "pick one" which is exactly what this is. Which is the lesser of two evils? One is behavioral, one is a chacter problem. Behavioral problems generally can be dealt with as the "host" matures. Character problems are generally genetic or instilled by some parental deficiency, due to the parent's unwilligness to admit that they or their offsprings might not be perfect. In psyciatric circles this is called narcissism. I'm pefect and something is wrong with the rest of the world.