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I am happy that you have someone who confided to you about her past. It most likely means that she trusts you and cares about you, and feels that you will do the same. While it is good, that she may had told you this, she was not obligated to do so. What matters is how she acts NOW, not 10 or 20 years ago.

I think that you upset a lot of women on this site with all of that "alpha princesses", stuff. They get the idea you only want a woman to be at your "beck and call". While this is most likely not true, to some of them it appears to come across this way.

I think that you upset a lot of women on this site with all of that "alpha princesses", stuff. They get the idea you only want a woman to be at your "beck and call". While this is most likely not true, to some of them it appears to come across this way.

I think one problem with these form of media is that you don't see the facial expressions or tone of voice, someone could be just joking a little but unless you include a smiley or "/sarcasm>" tag, you might be taken seriously. It is very easy to "step in it" accidently. I've done it form time to time, even when I was on Fidonet.

True, and I explicitly said she told me of her own initiative of her past. Yes, she was under no obligation to do that. And yes, what matters is the person she is now, not then. I explicitly said that in my post.

And I don't think my commentary upsets a lot of women on FR - just an animated, passionate few. As to why they see my commentary through such a prism, I can't say. They are the best judges of that.

I don't think I have ever called anyone on this site an alpha princess, no idea where that came from, sorry. Your use of quotes around that figure of speech suggests you are quoting me, and I don't think that's accurate, but I could be wrong.

And I also have no idea how I gave the impression that I want a woman to be at my beck and call. I truly don't see how it comes across in my point of view. In fact, I have been frank in other posts that my longterm galpal doesn't even live in the same city as I do and we share 4-day weekends every 3-4 weeks alternately in LA and LV. I don't know how that could be interpreted as a strong desire on my part to have a woman at my 'beck and call,' sorry.

I have bluntly stated that many men don't like dealing with a career woman with a heavy personal schedule. I think this is true. I have also bluntly said that when men are given the choice with a successful woman who has excessive work demands and a successful woman who has a more agreeable schedule, much more often than not they will reject the woman with too many time demands in favor of the one.

If that somehow gets filtered as I want a woman at my beck and call, all I can say it that such an interpretation speaks volumes for whoever interpreted it that way. And whatever it is saying, it's not flattering.