I NEVER once have said, that someone is ruined for life, if they mess up. I am all for poeople turning their lives around, and once they do, they are to be honored, not shunned. And if you would READ my posts, that is what I said.
What I did say, was that I do not approve of that behavior from someone who is doing it NOW, And that I have a problem with those who justify such behavior from those who call themselves Christians. If my belief that a CHRISTIAN is not supposed to act that way makes me seem like a wacko, and such, then SO BE IT!!!!(Before you say, "who are you to judge", recall, that when Jesus forgave someone, he said--"go and SIN NO MORE".)
I was quoting Melas in his response to you. That much is clear from the part I quoted.
I have noproblems with the English language. I was just agreeing with Melas's post and offered my own experience, and added you as a courtesy, that's all.
Sorry if it was confusing. No need to take it personally or get hostile, though. Regardless of what you may think, it's not all about you, you know.