[PaulaB]

I think if you try to not impute things to posters that they didn't say, your ability to communicate clearly and meaningfully will improve.

Back up ....I think you need to reread what you post.. maybe as a male you read it one way and as a female I read it another but it was there... I did not make the strangeness of it up.... if your going to post it...I hope you can back it and not blame it on others "for not understanding"

[Dashing Dasher]

How could you possibly misunderstand this.... (LOL!)


I'm not a psychologist nor a psychiatrist. I'm a hustler* - that makes it essential that I know how people think, how they tend to react, what buttons to push, how hard, and how often.

I've worked on all this since I was a very small child and found out I had the gift of gab and a disarming smile.

My day job is as a peak performance coach and consultant, and I also train people in refining their communication skills. Since the reaction you get from a person tends to depend on who you are talking to, what you say/do, and how you react to what they say/do, it helps to know what to say and do to get a desired result from people.

Judgmental types might say I train people in manipulation.

My products sell for $ 300 or more (taped audio courses), and my consulting fee is $5,000 a day and first class expenses, two-day minimum.

* In the interest of clarity, that's an oldschool definition of hustler: "a shrewd (or unscrupulous) person who knows how to circumvent difficulties; goal: get people's money." Not the more modern definition: a hooker. :-)

[HitmanLV]

If you are going to respond to what someone says, respond to what they say. Don't exaggerate and extrapolate from it, then trash it.

That's a general principle, not intended for you to take personally.