That's understandable. I guess if I had and extra wish, I would wish that I wasn't so shy in front of the female species. LOL :)
Trust me, the ones worth going out with are the ones who perfer gentlemen, and like to be treated as a lady...
Easy to do, and easy to impress!
There are good docs and sites on the web to give practical help with that issue.
Simply observing in your network those balanced, healthy guys who have an easier time with gals and overcoming shyness
and IN YOUR VERSION ACTING AS THOUGH YOU WERE THEM--will, step-by-step change your life.
Also, observing the woman and tuning in on what her priorities are and asking her about them--getting them to talk about themselves is a great way in as well as a great way to slowly unfold, yourself.
And, you can ask women what their priorities are in life; this week; today; for dinner.
You can note early on that you are working at becoming less shy so they may have to bear with you as you stumble along toward that goal. Most women will feel nurturing and protective of such a confession and such a vulnerability.
If they are not so, avoid them.
Avoid those with long fingernails--especially red or black ones.
If fitting, check with a counselor to be sure all your 'mother stuff' is known and worked through.
When fitting, offer to [after learning how from an expert] offer to massage a woman's hands and occasionally look into her eyes and tell her how you enjoy being with her because ___________________ and then be specific about the because.
Great success to you. A key factor is choosing that rare woman who's worth the bother and a good match for you.