It's a well argued point. Trouble is, I don't know anyone, besides you, who thinks that way. I've certainly never had thoughts in my head remotely like those you describe.
What Mrs Don-o says is the foundational reasoning behind why I only want people who hold to marriage or chasity in my apartment. This is how I raise my children and I am far from alone. The Chasity Backlash is not about being anal retentive, it is about acknowledging the reality of men and women as loving beings.
Good luck.