what sorts of consquences are there for you to inflict on him for when he does get caught? taking the travel hockey away from xsboy would keep him obeying us, bc there is no way he can do it without us paying for it and hauling his butt to and fro. They have to learn consequences for their actions and it has to be something that is very meaningful to them.
phone and his right to go out friday nights and his skateboard are the most effective consequences...and I do that...He's spent the last year doing bunches of community service, and now faces another 90 hours of it (for missing and being tardy to class too often - the abscences are mostly a case of getting to class too late to even be counted tardy...you get too many in our school district, you have to do community service and pay a fine.
I am just exhausted. He tried to commit suicide about 18 months ago, is on meds and has a counselor, has PTSD and ADD and SAD and now I am tired.