Dr. Phil exposes female perpetrated domestic violence

Excerpts from Dr. Phil Show Website ^ | 5/21/05 | TerryGale

[TerryGale]

Feel free to move this if there is a more appropriate location. I don't know if this is the sort of thing people here are interested in or not. People at StandYourGround, Hannity.com, and even SternFanNetwork forums have different opinions as to whether Dr. Phil did a good job, or allowed "Sheila" to play the "victim" too much.

[pissant]

If a feller can't protect himself from female abuse, then he deserves it, IMO.

[Enterprise]

"If a feller can't protect himself from female abuse, then he deserves it, IMO."

[pissant]

That loser indeed deserves the flighty dingbat!

[Enterprise]

He deserves her, and all that she can steal, if he keeps her.

[R. Scott]

Often if the man defends himself, he will be jailed for assaulting the "poor, helpless little" woman.

[television is just wrong]

All Domestic violence is bad. We have to realize it. It is psychologically based most of the time. It is programmed into the perpetrators, and the victims cant find their way out of a box. It is sad.

[pissant]

I'd rather be jailed than scratched and clawed and on Dr. Phil for universal ridicule.

[R. Scott]

I don’t care for jail. I also don’t care to be used as a punching bag. Guess I’m lucky to have been able to avoid both.
My late wife tried to punch me out one time – just to show her girlfriends that she could do it. Every time she threw a punch I dodged. Eventually she tired out.

[randog]

What's the latest on that whole affair? Is he really going to marry her? I originally gave her the benefit of the doubt, but after finding out about her multiple shoplifting arrests I'd really be surprised if he went through with it. That chick really is damaged goods.

Maybe there's something about him we don't know...?

[AlbionGirl]

In my early twenties, I was involved with someone who would physically abuse me. He punctured my ear drum, kicked my leg into a wall with steel-toed boots, didn't break my leg, but the scar remains.

Yet, if I'm going to be honest with myself, I have to admit I flirted with that part of his nature. I would say the most outrageous things to him, to wound him. That of course led to a snap, and that's when everything would start to come undone.

The disgust he had for himself after he snapped made him come crawling. There was a kind of power in that; in being able to get him to snap.

Had he been a real man, he would have said 'see you later.' 'call me when you grow-up', but he was young himself.

I can honestly say, that I hold no hard-feelings toward him, because I've accepted responsibility for my role in things.

I'm not saying he had any right to lay a finger on me, I'm just saying he wasn't the only guilty party.

[Enterprise]

I don't know, but I'll take a WAG here. He would probably have gone ahead and married her if nothing new was known about her. Once the information came out about her prior relationships and her petty theft convictions he might have considered stepping back. He might be starting to understand that his view of things like trust, commitment, and honesty might be somewhat different than hers. And the idea of "saving oneself until marriage" might have been a one sided view; his - not hers.

[thombo]

"I'd be surprised if he went through with it(marriage)that chick really is damaged goods."I suspect he is(damaged goods)as well.I believe they've lived together for a couple years?He should know what he's getting into.Misery loves company.Happens all the time.The kids pay the price.

[thombo]

Like to see guy's snap?Years ago,I had a live in girlfriend just like you.Would get right in my face and call me every name in the book.Trying to get me to "snap".Kicked her sorry @ss out before i lost it.Apparently she proceeded to play same game with her next boyfriend/room mate,and he kicked the livin $hit out of her.Have a nice day:)

[AlbionGirl]

The outrageous things I said didn't come out of the blue, they were my response to fights that happened because he was always trying to control me. He could dominate me physically, that didn't impress me much.

I never got in his face, didn't have to. Always had a very good vocabulary, always could tell where the soft spot was in people. Always hit it dead center, even with other females who would try to impress their worldview on me, so it wasn't strictly a guy thing.

And, like I said, he should have said hit the bricks, and told me he didn't need the worthless grief. That I wasn't anywhere near worth it. But he was weak. He was quite a bit smarter than me too, but it didn't matter, because he was so weak.

He didn't go on to beat anyone else up, as far as I understand it, but he's still as weak as he ever was.

I do feel bad about hurting him, but I figure w/the broken ear drum and slighly indented lower leg, we're even.

And, by the way, you have a nice day too.

[thombo]

Some very informative/insightfull lines in your post."Always could tell where the soft spot was." "Always hit it dead center,even with other females."Re-read your post.You need help.

[AlbionGirl]

No need to re-read it, I'm well aware of my flaws. I did not repeat that behavior. But even today, if someone wants to play hardball with me, I don't mind lobbing a few back. It's that simple, and quite healthy.

I don't know if you need help, but you seem unnerved.

[Polybius]

If a feller can't protect himself from female abuse, then he deserves it, IMO.

That is sooooooo insensititive.................But you're right. ;-)

[thombo]

"I did not repeat the behavior."Are you being honest?I'll bet it(anti-social behavior)continues to this day.Am i "unnerved"?I gotta admit somethin.Every once in a while i see a post from some buffon that is just sooo assinine,i have to comment,and i'm about 90%sure i'll get a response.I can't help it!Luv ya Babe:)

[mlmr]

A lot of female inflicted domestic violence is lesbian.