If it were me and someone were trying to kill me because I was an inconvenience in their life, I would hope that someone would take it public and come to my defense, especially if I were not able to express my wishes myself. Just as babies need someone to defend them against abortions from those that should love them the most, so too it seems handicapped adults need protecting, again, from those that SHOULD love them the most.
All in all it does sound like you have made up your mind, even if you don't think you have,
If there is a chance of saving 'me', the me that knows she is alive and has capacity to both feel and give love and life... Then by all means, I want them to pull out the stops to save me. That's what love and gallantry and devotion are all about.
But if I will never get better, if my condition will not only consume me but the lives of everyone around me and all that they've worked for, I'd surely hate to see that happen. Money is often used as just a callous matter where life is concerned. But as long as medicine and care are things that take time and money, it will be an important part of decision. To risk our life and the assets of our whole family for a cure is gallant. To have it all consumed in the care of a permanently vegetative body that used to be me.... is just sad.
I totally AGREE with YOU. Like oh the public should not be involved it is a private family matter. Hell no! Murder is not private!!! I also hope the Public would rais Holy H E Double Hocky Sticks if it were happening to me.