No, they weren't. Taking the mere word of a man who "suddenly remembered" something she said 7 years after the fact is not "making more effort"--Heaven help those who make little off-hand remarks ("I'd rather die than wear a dress like that" or "I wouldn't want to live past 30, ewww, that's ancient" etc.), lest someone hold them to it with the same tenacity as Michael Schiavo did.
Some here dispute her right to have the tube removed even if she wanted it removed. Do you? Do you at least agree that removal of the tube was proper IF she wanted it? And that you don't know any more about what she wanted than I do?