"She had the decency to divorce him and give guardianship to my mother."
Pehaps she got along with her in-laws better than Michael with his?
Why should the scrutiny of he who lost a wife be different from those who've lost a daugther? Maybe it just seems that way?
Not the case at all. My brother and sil weren't living together at the time of the accident. My SIL stuck my brother in a horrible nursing home where he got bed sores and lost tons of weight. My mother took her to court to try and get my brother away from her to get him some therapy. The judge didn't care how she was treating my brother. Once my SIL got the money she wanted then she did the decent thing and turned him over to my mother so she could divorce him. Sadly, by that time it was to late for therapy to do much good. Haven't talked to her since and don't care to.
As for your last sentence I'm not exactly sure what you mean but if you mean why aren't we scrutinizing the parents like we are the husband. I guess it's because they aren't trying to kill her.