Then we agree more than we disagree.
I do maintain that when a female compliments a man on being 'nice,' it is no compliment. It's a euphamism for 'stripped of sexual instinct.'
A man can't be gentle until he has been tough. Women know that, and reward men with those traits more than the colloquially 'nice' ones.
Who would have thought telling a guy he's nice and respectful is an insult?