Posted on 02/28/2005 8:24:39 AM PST by pissant
You are right. I know that from personal experience.
It is. I'm glad you confirmed it. Some of it is perhaps a little over-the-top, but I can tell you, I've done a lot better cultivating the Bad Boy image and not caring -- letting women pursue me a little -- than I ever did chasing them around. Having a little sense of humor also helps.
Please note that our intrepid author fails to mention a sense of humor.
I can say from personal experience that jokes about (a) ex-girlfriends, (b) India and (c) sacredness do not go over so well.
Please note that our intrepid author fails to mention a sense of humor.
I can say from personal experience that jokes about (a) ex-girlfriends, (b) India and (c) sacredness do not go over so well.
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Just kidding!
I like a guy with a sense of humor.
Oh, how would you know anyway? Besides, the coolest thing is being able to post twice and not knowing why.
So let's see, I wear the hat on my butt and put my jeans over my head, right?
Oh, they all say that, but, Billy Crystal not withstanding, you never see funny guys as the desirable hunks on the soap operas. When push comes to shove, it's always the guy with the cigarette pack rolled into his sleeve.
When he chooses to wear a shirt, that is.
(Smiling slightly, looking your way, sunglasses on, leaning against the building with my jacket slung over my shoulder)
SHould I share these with my sons?
Wow the last time I watched a soap opera was years ago.
Be yourself. Say what you feel like saying, or say nothing if you have nothing to say. Open doors or don't. Be emotionally demonstrative or keep it all buttoned up. Or any combination of these.
Observe. How to people react to you? Do you get lots of first-only dates, have long relationships that end with the woman still liking you, or no dates?
Think. How does "being yourself" work for you? If you're not pleased with the results, be honest with yourself about what works and what doesn't. Are you turning women off over minor things? Major things? Are these cosmetic things (holding a door for a woman) or deep, major issues (your work is the core of your life and to give it up would mean you're not being yourself)?
Change what is turning women off unless you're willing to be alone with these elements of your personality intact.
"Liqour is the answer for short term relationships. (It'll get 'em every time)"
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LOL. The liquor does indeed work. Usually by getting blitzed after the gal(guy) you were trying to hit on leaves the bar. Then the indespesible "beer goggles" kick in and you end up with the toothless troll who was chain smoking at the end of the bar!
I'm sorry, I didn't make myself clear.
Put it this way: if a man is confusing his masculine presence by being overly 'nice,' the odds are that the female won't be sexually intrigued by the 'niceness.'
'Nice' to a large extent (though need not be) means denying a man's natural sextual instinct and identity. When a woman calls a man 'nice,' that's usually a euphamism for 'sexually nonthreatening.'
So the next time a male is 'complemented' as being 'nice,' realize she is telling you that you have stripped yourself of most of your sexual idenity - you are a 'non-threat.' You have no penis or testicles to speak of. One of the girls. There is no reason to expect most women would be sexually smitten by such a male.
A woman can't meaningfully recognize a man as gentle until she has seen him be tough - and that includes being tough with her. Not in a violent, domineering, or overbearing way, but in the way that shows masculinity, confidence, dominance (as in being a dominant, and not a weak, male), and character.
The truth is that given choice, a woman will naturally choose to be with a more dominant and unambiguously masculine male than a less dominant and more ambiguously masculine male.
The fact that the male in the second case intentionally made himself ambiguous, or somehow thinks himself as superior, is strange.
The truth is that it is not a choice between being a nice guy and a jerk. Limiting it to that choice isn't productive. You have more choices than being 'nice' and 'jerk.'
The 'kind of woman' who is drawn to a masculine presence is the large majority of women. I don't blame them - they instinctively don't want to pass their DNA onto a next generation with what is considered (though perhaps wrongly so) as a weak male's DNA.
Those men are inferior, in that they undermine their masculuine traits to the point where they are sexless wonders, or girlfriends with a penis. It's very hard for a woman to be excited by a male who has divorced himself from his sexual nature (which for purposes of what I am saying is what I mean - and what many women mean - by 'nice').
Those men are routinely rejected, even if they consider themselves superior in some way to men who embrace their sexual identity. I applaud women who reject those males - those ladies understand that while those sexless wonders are really nice to have around when they need to be picked up at the airport in the poring rain, they rarely reward those men with their sexual goodies because, when you get right down to it, they aren't sexually very exciting.
They reserve those goodies for more unambiguously male. And that's a good thing.
LOL
You get lots of huffy responses when you post this stuff here. Usually from guys who don't want to believe it. It's generally not worth the trouble to try to educate them that Nice Guy = Woman Repellent. ;)
Leave me out of this!
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