I quit over 3 years ago, when my children disappeared! I promised God that if he would bring my children home, I would quit!
2 hours before I picked them up...I smoked my last cigarette (I still had 8 packs out of a carton that I gave away). I quit cold-turkey. I was really motivated...but I found this easier than the other times I had tried using gums and patches.
I will keep you and your wife in my prayers! Good luck and keep us updated.