I often felt that if I could get the kid away from both of them it would be for the best, but then you prosecute a foster parent for abuse and wonder if there is any justice for these kids after all.
That's another thing.....in one case, a foster parent was falsely accused by one of her foster kids, who was mad at her because of some rule she enforced, so the kid lied and made up stories....all the foster kids were then removed from this woman's home. It was later proved unfounded, but those kids aren't being returned to her....despite her loving them and their wanting to return. It's disgusting.
Sometimes it is. A big problem here, though, is not having anyplace to put them while we're having to play games with some of these terminally worthless parents. We have some wonderful foster homes, but we don't have enough, so consequently, our foster parents are constantly overburdened and a lot of them get burnt out. Then we AND the foster parents get in trouble for "going against policy" in the homes being overloaded or not going perfectly by the book, so there's that added stress on everybody. So then, we find ourselves in situations where we end up leaving children in deplorable situations because we don't have anything to do with them, and then we get in trouble for that. It isn't that there aren't more people willing to be foster parents; it's that when they apply, they don't get trained and approved in a timely manner, and most give up or their paperwork gets lost on the desk of some bureaucrat in Little Rock.