#1, they don't want to be free to have their own dogmas, they want no one else to contradict them and
#2, it's essentially a tantrum. They want the approval that they will never get. Sometimes Sarah thinks if she says "please" louder and louder I am going to permit her to do what I forbade.
Same thing, really.
SD
Heheheh. I get that a lot, too. :o)