I, for one, love the South, and think southerners are some of the nicest people I've ever met.
And while I am certainly not accusing you of anything, what I hate is the misconceived notion that says that the Confederates did not commit treason against the United States and that they only fought for noble ends or which excuses the horrific brutal, un-conservative and un-Christian treatment of black Americans, both before and after the Civil War.
One could simply say, "Yes, it was treason, but like that against Great Britain in the 18th century, it was a justified treason that failed. But thank God the worthy values they fought for have been preserved while the unworthy ones have been discarded. And, yes, our fellow man was brutally and inexcusably treated, but thank God that is all in the past."