I'd say one good indicator is to ask a family member what they think. My dad (may he rest in peace) insisted that he didn't have an alcohol problem and that he just enjoyed drinking. My mother and I could see with our own eyes that he was fooling himself.
This sounds very logical. I have to say though that I enjoy drinking on weekends. I do find myself hiding a little because my husband doesn't drink and he is very extreme in in self-discipline. Of course he expects the same from me and we obviously are all different. I asked my cousin who lives with me and she says I don't have a problem, but she happens to be a compulsive eater and I'm not sure about her judgement. My children are too little and the oldest has commented about the wine glasses in the kitchen, but then again her father has certainly instilled his views on her. I have never had a hang over or any terrible problems but I really do enjoy it too much. I have quit for some time (during pregnancy) and then tell myself I have no problem. I don't really over do it, but I certainly enjoy a few few glasses of wine on the weekends. Sometimes I do get the impression that I could be going down a dangerous slippery slope and this post is a good warning sign that I need to see where I'm going. Thanks.