The recovering alcoholic is like the puzzle piece that has changed and no longer fits exactly in the space we used to occupy. Since it is not reasonable to expect others to change to accomodate our new shape, we often need to find a new puzzle to be a part of.
Old hangouts, old hobbies and old drinking buddies must be dealt with.
And it will take time for even those closest to you to really believe that you really mean it "this time" as compared to all the past times you had said you changed.
Patience is required.
I simply cut off contact - completely.
I adopted a new family with new friends, and I felt safe.
I'm not saying my way is the best way for everyone, but it was the best way for me.