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Is this going to be the first FFT thread in which comments are removed by the mods??!

I don't think so - but it sure made me take a good hard look at myself and how I react to certain types of comments.

Often I will get up and walk into another room for a few minutes to compose myself after reading a particularly vicious attack. But sometimes the urge to "hit back" is far too strong.

The best way I have found to help myself in response to a particularly (IMO) ugly or nasty post, is to reply with "I value my posting privileges here, so I will not respond in kind ........"

So far it has worked.

Howdy grellis! I think I might have pinged you to the aforementioned thread. I think it's amazing that whenever a discussion about parenting breaks out, things get so ugly. Maybe we are all in the same boat. Obviously we all want what's best for our kids and whatever method of parenting/schooling etc. I am involved in is what I think is best. And then when someone comes along and challenges my idea of what is best, the defenses go up and the mama lion comes out in me and I just have to tell everyone else that of course the way I do it is best. If it wasn't the best I'd be admitting that I'm not doing the best for my kids! And I can't have that!! LOL!!

Seriously though, it's hard to understand sometimes that what is best for MY family is not always best for another family. Instead I can see the differences as some sort of "I'm better than you because..." challenge. I think a lot of the anger gets stirred up because people -- including me -- don't realize how judgemental we can sound when our words are not accompanied by our facial expressions. And then of course, there are some who just love getting others riled up. I wish THEY would go away!

So let me say, to everyone on this thread, that I respect our differences, and I hope to learn as much from each of you as possible! And if I ever come across otherwise, let me know, ok? I certainly don't mean any harm! :o)

So in conclusion, if you're a public school demand feeder who slings your kids and lets them sleep in your bed, you must be a liberal democrat! LOL!!!!! (ONLY kidding!

And now that I've spouted off my 10 cents, I'll go read what you all have said! He he he!!

First, I'd like to ask all of you to say a prayer for one of our moms, backinthefold, whose son broke two foot bones recently. Can we have an update, BITF?

Well, the orthopedist is going to wait 3 weeks to see if the bones will heal on their own. If not, off to surgery. He did not want to manipulate the dislocation back and cause son to have more pain. It's in a good position to heal on its own.

I will admit, I am a bad parent. One of the rules in the house is "No blood, No foul" so son thought that since his foot had no blood, he was unhurt.

I try to stay out of discussions like that thread. I saw it, and saw some of the comments, and just went away. I want no one to judge me on my parenting skills, and I will not pass judgement on others. "Judge not, let ye be judged" are words to live by.

Howdy!

I have taught preschool, kindergarten, junior high Title 1 Math and am now "retired" SAHM of 3 kids ages 3 and under. I have experience of working in the daycare/ public school setting and will be sending my kids to public school. The parents that are involved in their kids lives, whether it be for 2 hours a day or all day are what makes kids successful.

To take it a step further, I have seen parents who feel guilty about working. The guilt they feel is probably the most harmful thing in that situation. The guilt they feel is what they use to justify overindulging a child and not giving the child boundaries. Those children really run amok. If the parent would just accept their decision without guilt, it would be the the best medicine for the family.