That's my thing - earning them.
Your boys are older than Jax, so she hasn't earned as many "things." She has a TV and a VCR - I've got the DVD player. She does have a computer with internet access - but there are very strict rules about the access. She shares the phone line with daddy (I have my own) so he has first priority, she can not go on line without permission, she can not go to a website she sees on TV until one of us looks at it, etc.....
If she is sent to her room for punishment, it is punishment because both he computer and TV are disconnected first.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's strick. I have confiscated batteries and unhooked the splitter on the cable. I can't just take the mouse anymore since Bob can use the F keys on his keyboard------unlike me.