Hi,
But my son was not threatened and knows the difference.
I mainly feel I should have been called before questioning, and given the opportunity to be there, in what was not a minor violation by the school, but a major one in their opinion.
Why were the others not subjected to this the same as mine was. Ar ethey only gathering this form, and threatening repercussions so they can use it against the child at an expeulsion hearing? If so, should they have a duty to tell us that.
Are they going to turn the form over to the police, and then have them use it to file charges? If so, should they have a duty to tell us that?
That form could indicate us a switnesses to the stetments for all we know.
I am also concerned that this form will be a part of his record, and him being wrongly associated as if he brought the knife to school himself.
Ohh... he's the boy who didn't turn in the knife boy, better watch him, and maybe he no longer gets any benefit of the doubt for a minor infraction he may commit in the future, but do to this form being in his file, he is labelled as a non-complier.
When this admin person knew a knife was invloved, does the state mandate the police are called, child welfare?
Great let them question my son, I have no problem with that. But you know what, this person acted as the police, and she is not.
Had it been the police, they by law would have been required to either notify me, or ask my son if he wants me to be notified before questioning him.
My son stated he was scared of going into the office, and I don't think he did anything wrong.
And yes, I don't consider a pocket knife dangerous, it is the person who uses the pocket knife and threatens that is dangerous. That is not the case in this matter.
And no one else handled the knife except the kid who brought it.
This kid will most likely be expelled fo rthis, and now because of another students stupidity, my child may be associated with it, and being known as a kid that makes bad choices, and oh look we have proof you make bad choices, you signed this form stating you do.
He will be labelled, and isn't that worse than what he deserves for simply sitting at a lunch table trying to eat his lunch?
And what is his choice now, either sign this saying you make bad choices, and we'll file it, or reap punishment for not signing it.
Why is that right for them to do that?
Someone point to me the law that says every witness must come forward and report a minor infraction. (Sheesh, he was showing off to his frineds a pocket knife folks.)
What is next.
Rule is no gum chewing in class.
My son notices another boy chewing gum and doesn't tell on him, so he is punished.
Oh I see this is not your first time, you have a record of not telling and making bad choices, NO SOUP FOR YOU...
Listen, to me this is a serious issue, soup comment aside, but I don't want my son punished for viewing something he had no control over. He laready gave a statement, and said yes, he saw a knife. Big deal. They got the kid, they got the knife, punish him, not the others who saw it.
And yes, I see this as an unjust punishment if a parent doesn't sign the form stating he made a bad choice.
HE DID NOT MAKE A BAD CHOICE.
A bad choice would be did he have a knife, and my son says NO. that is a bad choice. It should have ended when he answered yes, and he shoudl have beens ent back to class, issue over for him.
Instead you have a scared 9 year old, who is questioned at length an dtold he did something wrong.
I'm sorry, but unless we want germany in the lat e30's and 40's, this is not the environment I want my son in.
I am an optimist, so maybe this will be resolved in the morning, but what if it isn't. What if they choose to punish him by keeping him out of recess?
All they want is for your son to know, in no uncertain terms, that knives in school are against the rules. And that if they see one, they should report it. That is the rule. Why do you want to interfere with that lesson and confuse the kid?
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I am an optimist, so maybe this will be resolved in the morning, but what if it isn't. What if they choose to punish him by keeping him out of recess?
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You get through it and you get over it. If you believe your son did the right thing, let him know but also let him know that being right is not always the same as obeying the rules.
Kids are supposed to be scared of going to the office.
I don't want my son punished for viewing something he had no control over.
This is important. In the future, do you want your kid to be ~wary~ or ~complacent~ about being in the presence of kids that are doing something wrong?