She had that viewpoint *before* there were kids.
This is my brother who got his pilots license and learned to SCUBA dive in high school. When they married he had a job where he flew the company plane as a part of his work. When that company went belly-up he ended up having to give up flying because his wife thinks it's too dangerous.
Then, in later years he had to curtail scuba diving because that also scares her. He still dives some - occasionally - but it is a point of contention between them because it scares her.
Okay, I know I may be *different* but I just can't see this. She knew these things about my brother *before* they married. If it scared her... then ... why? This is the brother that I often don't see eye-to-eye with also, but it saddens me that he has had to give up much that he loves.
The things that we do as passionate hobbies, those are often the things that make the nicest textures of each of our individuality. I am sad for him that he no longer gets to enjoy those things. And I love my sister-in-law, but I resent some of the things she has taken from my brother too. I understand fear... but, the one thing I know is that I could never ever bear to end up with a man who enjoyed snakes. LOL That one just wouldn't work for me.
I dunno. I shouldn't think about it. They've been married 20 years in December. I guess it works for 'em. I mind my own business except when it comes up like this.
But, my brother used to like to hunt too. He can't now. And neither of their sons get to hunt. I guess they don't miss it cause they've never done it. and i just said i was gonna mind my own business didn't i?
I understand! I've seen that happen too.