Sorry to butt in here.........but I know exactly what you are talking about and what you are going through. I feel the same way about not bringing any money into the household. And my husband in no way says or does anything to make me feel that way. And he even at times gets a bit annoyed with me because I won't spend anything on myself.
I'm nore than likely to spend anything extra I've got on something for Jax or else in the grocery store!!!! It drives him nuts that I won't spend it on myself.
You're not butting in at all! I know many of us mothers who have given up working to stay at home with the kids deal with this issue daily. Its very, very difficult to reassess self-worth, primarily because, IMO, most of us never give ourselves the credit we deserve. A good exercise for all of us would be to write out a month's worth of tasks we do. Call a dry cleaner or laundromat, find out how much a load of laundry costs. How much do babysitters make hourly? Bookkeeping? Cooking? How much would a round trip cab ride to the grocery store (library, cub scout meeting, etc) cost? Write it all out, add it all up. I bet most of us earn our keep and then some. The hardest thing is admitting it to ourselves.