Ruthy, you know you are not the only one talking here tonight who has let ex's talk to us like that... and put up with stuff like that. It just takes a while to finally get to the point where you figure out that it never gets better I think. And it also takes a while to figure out all those stupid things they tell us are lies!!!
As I recall, I was just about your age when it finally sunk in for me! And I must say, all those years since then have been a lot better! It is even better to be alone and lonely than have somebody that treats ya like that. But, you will not end up being alone for long I think! :-)