Yeah...that would do a lot of good.
but is it so wrong to say that EVERY life lost was just as important?
Yes, it is...depending on the life. For example, do you mourn the murder of a concentration camp guard who died during an uprising at the end of the war equally with the Jew he murdered during the uprising? Is it "self-defense" because the Jews were rioting?
Are they saying that a jew's life is worth more then say, someone who starved in the Ukraine?
Depends on how the Ukrainian lived his life. Doesn't it? If he starved to death because he gave his last morsel of bread to a Jewish child he was hiding, then the answer to your question is that the lives of each are equally important. If, on the other hand, he starved to death because he was part of the Ukrainian police who persecuted Jews during the Holocaust and he starved to death in prison, then I don't have too much sympathy for him.
Feel free to disagree.