Dating game becoming more like a chore

Winston-Salem Journal ^ | Thursday, January 8, 2004 | Kate Zernike

[Taffini]

They also cut into time spent on FR, time spent surfing eBay, riding the motorcycle, waxing the Camaro, walking the dog, oiling the 'fine steel' ...


Move to Michigan. We like your type.

[John O]

Hoosier women are great cooks, know how to shoot, and know how to take care of their men.

From another lucky hoosier husband. I agree. Although she doesn't shoot she does fish and is an expert mushroom hunter. (Morels - yummmmmy)

[Tax-chick]

Housewarmings are independent of marriage or non- ; the only requirement is a new place to live. Registering for gifts, for almost any occasion, is what I find tacky.

[ItsOurTimeNow]

an expert mushroom hunter.

Amen to that!

Although we can't get mushrooms as good out here in RI, she more than makes up for it when we're visiting her family in Richmond.

We head out there a couple times a year.

[mindspy]

He is smart. I am not nearly that smart or accomplished. I wish those women's libbers hadn't mucked up everything and made women feel they had to be as accomplished as a man to be compatible with him.

[dbwz]

Sometimes people want something so badly that they start to see things that aren't really there - coupled with the fact that they're not really sure why they wanted it in the first place.

Well, OK, they want it because it's really trendy right now.

(And it's trendy because....?)

[cjshapi]

Logic says no, however it is customary to celebrate a union of marriage by sending a gift.

For what my opinion is worth I think it is selfish for any single person to register at any store with the expectation that someone is going to buy them specified gifts just because. If an adult wants something they are able to afford they can go purchase it for themself. Why should it be expected that someone else should tote the bill?

[montomike]

That's great! Good for them.

Do you have any other daughters?

[Grig]

Men will be what women will accept. Most women have lowered their standards and most men are happy to go along with that.

If women held men to a higher standard, there would be a lot of better men to choose from.

[Semaphore Heathcliffe]

right. I was just thinking of those registering "just because I'm me," or whatever the article was referencing.

[jrp]

Man-to-man advice: try finding a freeperette

So how does this work? It's not like we have an FR dating site of eligible freeperettes. Do you meet them in threads, at Freeps, or what? Hmm, maybe JR needs to start a conservative dating site and cash in on the online dating craze. Course it'd probably be 10/1 male/female ratio, lol.

[rintense]

They realize that a good love affair has as the basis a really good friendship," he said.

BINGO!

[Destructor]

Society is reaping the "fruits" of the feminist movement.

[Mark17]

I'm 24, and already jaded about things. You, my friend, have the right idea.

Well, July, I have never seen so many hot eligible single women in my life, and they all speak English. You should get in on the gravy train.

[rintense]

Your wisdom is needed here, now!

[jrp]

Oops, didn't read down all the way, lol. You're a couple steps ahead of me, omiw. Thanks!

Hey mindspy, where are you on the left coast? ;)

[technochick99]

I'm single and (gasp)40. I cannot imagine what these women are thinking, registering for gifts. Who thinks she deserves to have friends and family buy them specified items, just because they exist? Guess it's the selfish ones amongst our gender.

Well, I'm divorced and 37, and have to disagree strongly with you.

I'm quite a practical chick, and like to buy presents I know someone wants or needs. I use the amazon.com registry for my own desires and also to buy things for others. I wish I could know what everyone really wants, but that just isn't possible - I don't have time. How is it *any* different than giving a Christmas list? Now, no I haven't registered anywhere, but that's more because my desires and wants are minimal. I can barely get more than 3 items put on a Christmas list! But if I am (or someone else is ) going to spend the money on a gift - I want my money spent in the most effective manner.

And for showers and marriages, who has time to deal with getting 3 toasters and having to return things.

More people should use registries - it would greatly simplify a time-consuming (to the point of time-wasting!) task.

Of course, I am a very practical person..

[Joe Driscoll]

oiling the 'fine steel'

If you found a good woman, she would do that for you.

[ken5050]

Nope..just two..now, waiting on the grandkids....

[Capt.YankeeMike]

I met my fiancee' online....I have never been happier, its amazing how compatible we are..its like we have already been married for 20 years...but, i had to kiss a lot of "frogs" to find my "princess"

The Capt.