“It’s when the man gets older, sees all he’s worked for and accumulated on his own, and decides he wants to keep it and not risk 50% because he got married.”
I always see these posts—and they are correct as far as they go.
However I am stunned that folks don’t see the obvious solution—stop the whining and date women richer than they are....
These days there are plenty of lonely rich women who would lose more in divorce then almost all men.
You are not wrong.
I’ve been divorced over 7 years now and dating the same woman for almost 5. We have our own homes. She’s retired, I’m still working (because I want to and enjoy it, not because I have to. That and I really like the big paycheck having escaped alimony two years ago.)
We vacation together, spend weekends together, see each other during the week and both have our own hobbies and interests that we keep up with.
I like this arrangement because we also get our alone/private time for ourselves.
We only recently started talking about combining households and what that would mean. That conversation included talking about our financial status with each other, which until this point we’d not talked. As we both suspected, each of us is quite financially set, can do whatever we want and neither would be a financial burden to the other.
She also finally figured out why I don’t want to quit working, that I live well below my means and my “frugality” has actually become “charming” to her. She thought I was doing it becuase I had to, LOL!!!
We’re perfect for each other.
But women don’t want to date men who make less than they do.