Summary: men don’t want to lose 50% of what THEY worked for because they were dumb enough to sign a state mandated contract (”the marriage contract”) which states the woman can walk away anytime she wants, for any reason whatsoever, and take 50% of everything despite her not having worked and contributed financially to the family.
Now, when a man’s young of course he prefers casual dating and sex, perhaps more than the woman does.
It’s when the man gets older, sees all he’s worked for and accumulated on his own, and decides he wants to keep it and not risk 50% because he got married.
“It’s when the man gets older, sees all he’s worked for and accumulated on his own, and decides he wants to keep it and not risk 50% because he got married.”
I always see these posts—and they are correct as far as they go.
However I am stunned that folks don’t see the obvious solution—stop the whining and date women richer than they are....
These days there are plenty of lonely rich women who would lose more in divorce then almost all men.
“Her having not worked or contributed financially to a family.”
That’s sounds a bit predatorial on your part.
There is such thing as a pre nup. You could get one. If you are worried about your money.
But most women I have known have contributed tremendously. Their entire young lives and most of their middle age. It is their education and “career” that usually gets sidelined or set aside (willingly) in order to procreate, raise children as opposed to offspring that get boarded like pets, keep the household running which is a huge operation to do well. They are the ones who get up in the middle of the night, keep all the appointments, make the lunches, keep things clean and functioning, and devote themselves to building their husband’s career (which is in everyone’s best interest). A wife at home SAVES so much money, if they are managing decently! The childcare alone! Assuming you wanted the children. . . and They keep relationships and social matrices solid, building in the community and the larger family. They find the best prices, they cook at home, they do the laundry at home - I mean one can go on and on. Priceless. Certainly just as valuable as you.
So like once she is 40 or 50 and you are done with her (she no doubt did not hit every mark, nor did you), what is she supposed to do? Leave with the clothes on her back. Because the paycheck is in your name?
Now, there’s the opposite. A ho who snagged you in college because she thought you’d be a big earner, had one baby to keep you happy and was indifferent to the poor child, slept around, squandered money, and indulged herself. Ok. She gets 10%. That’s why we should have fair divorce laws.
But the vast majority of women I know have put all their best years into building strong intact families and, if dumped or so seriously abused through adultery or actual abuse that they need to leave, should absolutely get 50% and why would they not.