The OTHER OPTION, short of having your teen ‘kidnapped’, is to SPANK (particularly when very young), at least as long that it is legal. And just IGNORE the Dr. Spock types, that will likely show up here.
I’ve studied this troubled teen industry thing for over a year now.
Over half were adopted kids and the parents are “rehoming” them. Now that is not all of the kids but that is a lot of them. These are children they would not have had as babies or “very young”. Some adopted from other countries.
My daughter was about 4 or 5. She was being bad and I threatened her with a spanking. She continued, seemingly after some deliberation on her part. I gave her a lst warning, which she ignored with deliberation. So I told her it was time to be put over my knee. I spanked her - hard enought to sting. She didn't cry. It was like she was curious to experience what a spanking was. Spanking was not a useful means for me to use with her.
Thete is no one size fits all solution to what appears to be a recognizable problem, especially where your powers of recognition are limited.