My daughter was about 4 or 5. She was being bad and I threatened her with a spanking. She continued, seemingly after some deliberation on her part. I gave her a lst warning, which she ignored with deliberation. So I told her it was time to be put over my knee. I spanked her - hard enought to sting. She didn't cry. It was like she was curious to experience what a spanking was. Spanking was not a useful means for me to use with her.
Thete is no one size fits all solution to what appears to be a recognizable problem, especially where your powers of recognition are limited.
You waited too long...need to start at 2 years old, when just a love-tap makes them cry. Even a few years after that and they’ll both be more resistant and also know you’re not serious.
Really no different than parents who IGNORE us conservatives, enroll their kid in public schools, and 6 years later decide to home school and do not realize the results that other home schoolers are claiming (and backing up).
It’s important to identify who is on your side EARLY, and those who do, know that Dr. Spock, and the Public Schools, are simply NOT on their side.
My mom was a " knock it off right now" . if it did it again, I got paddled.
When my mom spoke , I LISTENED.