I am an adopted person who sent my DNA to ancestry in order to find my biological father. I knew my whole life I was adopted. When I made contact with my biological family, I had to keep in mind that I was a new entity for them. So I went slow and respected their privacy. They have all embraced me and consider me family.
Please be kind to this new person. They may not have had any inkling that the man they were raised with wasn’t their father. Or maybe they did. Maybe they heard rumors, maybe they don’t resemble their father and they wanted answers.
No one is saying that you need sent a place for them at thanksgiving, but at the very least, answer the questions they have about your dad, especially if there are any medical issues.
gracie1, good post. Bravo.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
It seems that, for now, the new half-sibling has the option to get back to my sister or not, as far as moving forward.
Possibly they will have conversations that are not shared with the rest of us, if that is how the new one wants it to go.
Maybe the new person will be more open to us after the mother passes (currently 86 and in decent health). And yes, there is some health history to be shared.
Thank you.