[grey_whiskers]

But *that* post, wasn't rambling.

And yes, it's true, about "thinking *they're* in charge" ; one may see, fairly often, a similar thing with a woman who persuades herself that a bad-boy she tingles for, "he just needs a good woman's love" etc. : when he (inevitably) breaks up, because he was just using her, she will

a) cut her hair short

and then

b) either swear off ALL men

or

c) go a little c*ck-crazy.

[Notthereyet]

You post an extremely valid point!