[Yaelle]

You might learn your father is not really your father,

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Impossible. Parenting is a verb. If a wonderful man parented you and was all things father to you, the genes matter not one bit. There is nothing taken away from that relationship when you find out 30 years later that your genes came from a different man who isn’t even in your life. He doesn’t deserve the title of father. He didn’t do the fathering.

I am my daughter’s mommy even if we don’t share any genes. That isn’t the important part. I’m just lucky I got to carry and give birth to her, adopted from an embryo.

[gracie1]

Yes, those things are true, but for many adoptees, donor conceived, and those with unknown father’s, no matter how wonderful your family, there is still a missing piece in your soul, a feeling of unrealness,a feeling of having no connection. Finding your biological family can be like putting on a pair of glasses for the first time, you see everything clearly about yourself for the first time.