[fulltlt]

Comments posted are interesting too.

[sr4402]

The Lord commands husbands to "love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her". This they need to do in daily prayer asking for their daily bread to do so.

Similarly "the wife must respect her husband" is the command to wives.

My advice to women like this is for them so show respect for the office of husband even if they can't find respect in her heart. And to go to the Lord in prayer and ask for the respect he needs, just as the husband needs to ask for the love she needs.

This is a great posting. Very seldom have I seen love and respect mentioned with regards to husbands and wives. It is badly needed and Thank You!

[jurroppi1]

Thanks for posting this, I enjoyed reading it!

[MulberryDraw]

Women want love. Men want respect. That old song, “All You Need is Love” is hogwash.

[sauropod]

I agree with most of this.

Men also need respect in the workplace. If bosses want productive employees, they need to respect them.

[B212]

well done.....I was at a large dinner party....maybe 6 couples....it was a talkative lot, the general tone of the conversation was energetic....when out of left-field, came a comment by a women, regarding their marriage...”the only reason XYZ, doesn't divorce me is because he can't afford to” No respect for her husband, or for the rest of us at the table...

[ScottinVA]

I agree.. popular culture carries the narrative that men — especially husbands — are bumbling, useless clods with no manners, skills or worth.

And many young women wonder why men in their age group aren’t interested in marriage...

[Vigilanteman]

These cultural messages aren’t harmful because they hurt my manly feelings; they’re harmful because of what they do to young girls. Society tells our daughters that men are boorish dolts who need to be herded like goats and lectured like school boys.

Ironic when you consider which gender is more likely to be herded and lectured by the sewer pipe of popular culture.

[melsec]

Proverbs 25:24 “It’s better to live in a corner on the roof than in a house with a contentious woman”. Funnily enough I was mentioning to my wife the other day how many comments women either make or put up on facebook that, if done by a man, would be considered sexist. Not that I care because what they have to say doesn’t bother me but dare bring it up and see what you get!

[McBuff]

Women will never respect a whiny man-baby. . .

[Lucky9teen]

Amen. As someone who just went through “a wall” with her own husband, I can attest that what you are saying couldn’t be more true.

[Opinionated Blowhard]

I know a couple like this. The wife is constantly telling everyone what is wrong with her husband. At dinner, she will start saying things like “what is wrong with you? why are you being so moody?” when to other people at the dinner, the husband isn't doing anything wrong. Its as if she has to believe that something is wrong with him so that she feels good about herself. They really should not be together. The irony is that for all her talk about all her husband's “problems,” everyone sees that she's the one with the problem. She wants people to think of her as some martyr for having to “put up with” her husband, but people really see what a total b__tch she is. Its a sick relationship when a wife is constantly picking at her husband in the same way its a sick relationship when a husband is constantly picking on and psychologically abusing his wife.

[Cato in PA]

There’s a lot of truth in that article. I enjoyed reading it.

It certainly doesn’t help that we’ve raised a generation of timid, emasculated men who wouldn’t even think of standing up to the clipped-haired, mean-faced feminists who walk all over them.

[Hoodat]

The man should have already earned your respect BEFORE you got married. Duh.

[ZOOKER]

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[b9]

When we married 38 years ago, we agreed not to “point and laugh.”

Respect, and a healthy sense of humor, work wonders.

He also promised to love me through all my “changes.” He had no idea what he was in for!

What a gift he is.

[umgud]

You can’t love a mate that you don’t respect. Respect has to be learned.

[Reddy]

Great article and I would recommend to anyone here who doesn’t usually follow Matt’s writing to do so. Lots of common sense (and Biblical) wisdom. The left can’t stand him.

[showme_the_Glory]

momma ain’t happy, nobody happy.

[BitWielder1]

Put down artists are never good for a relationship.
"Everything you say is stupid and wrong - by definition."
You can break a man's spirit that way. Or a woman's.
How about some honesty.
Praise when praise is due, constructive criticism, when needed. In private please, not in public.
Men can take criticism in large doses, until everything is criticized. Then it becomes useless.
We need positive feedback too or all directions will seem like down and there's no point in trying anymore.
What I said works both ways. Wifey too will cheer up with an attagirl now and then.

[daniel1212]

Comments posted are interesting too.

Yet he did not even mention,

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. (1 Peter 3:5-6)

Or,

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. (1 Peter 3:7-9)

Without Scripture, this an exhortation without its foundational ethos.