Posted on 09/06/2013 1:43:25 PM PDT by RoosterRedux
We are, most of us, grieving Trayvon Martin's death, again, after this absurd jury verdict. Last night, I watched Anderson Cooper's 'Town Hall on Race and Justice in America'. These discussions are interesting. There are, usually, a few thoughts that are heartfelt and impressionable. Charles Blow has been, particularly, moving.
A few days before, I told a friend that these discussions about 'race' keep black people situated in a 'victim' narrative. Stories of how we have to talk to our children to protect themselves when in public. Stories from high achieving black men about how they were stopped by the police, where they were taught how to place their hands on the steering wheel or to cross the street when walking on a street with a white woman. I scratched my head and thought, "we can talk about this until the cows come home. When are we going to have a 'town hall on racism' where white people discuss how they will speak to their children to make sure another George Zimmerman does not walk among us?"
When are we going to have a 'town hall on racism' that addresses how a jury of women, predominantly white women (and mothers!), don't identify with a black child? I need to know how that happened. I need to understand that. And I want white people to explain it to me. Before someone starts railing about the laws, understand that I read the law. I watched the trial EVERY DAY. EVERY DAY, beginning with jury selection, all of it. I decided I would bear witness for Trayvon no matter how I had to restructure my day. And I did it while reading the law.
The jurors had a CHOICE. They CHOSE to believe zimmerman. There was ample evidence that he lied. They could have discounted his statements. And, for those who want to blame the prosecution, again, I watched the trial. The prosecution proved, beyond a reasonable doubt, that zimmerman did not fear for his life. The only evidence that zimmerman feared for his life were his words. The medical testimony proved that his life was not in danger. Along with the fact that neighbors were watching and the police were on their way. The jury chose to believe zimmerman.
So, we can discuss the law. But, we need to discuss the filter through which these women viewed the laws. We need to change the laws, no doubt. But, I also want a discussion about who created those laws and why. Laws don't create themselves. It is easy to attack "the laws". It is more difficult to examine the racism that went into the construction of the laws. It is easy to excuse the jury verdict because of "the laws". The views that created those laws were shared by, at least, one of the jurors.
The discussions can happen simultaneously. We can fight to remove the laws. But, the laws will pop up in another form if we don't address the reasons why they were created in the first place. It feels like we, suddenly, fell back into the 1950's. Sorry, I'm not going back. We've done too much work to get out of that madness. We are not going back. This is the time to move "forward without fear".
The absurdity of racism is killing us. It's about time we expose it. What the hell do we have to lose? Everyone is hiding in the shadows, tip-toeing, afraid to point the finger, having private conversations about racism. Feeling defeated that "they'll never get it". Well, how are they going to get it if we don't call it what it is? I don't want to live with a double-consciousness. I don't have time for that. That takes too much energy - energy that needs to be put into my work.
Today, a white woman referred to me as "Honey" on my Facebook wall, before she went into a diatribe about what I need to do. She was not a "real" friend. So, I looked on her Facebook wall. She had a post which read, "I said to the older African American, next to me" (her words), as the verdict was read, "This is a victory." Yes, she did. She said, to this elder, that the verdict was a victory because "now we are talking about the laws." I had a few choice words for her and 'honey' was not among them.
It has taken me years to throw off the 'bowing' yoke that racism shrouds you in. My neighborhood is gentrified. With gentrification comes a better grade of products. So, we now have a cheese store. My friend and I went into the cheese shop. Mind you, I've been to Italy and France and have eaten some of the best cheeses in the world. But, I was in 'bowing' mode, that day. I announced the type of cheese we would be interested in, to show that I belonged.
I was doing shows to get a wedge of cheese. Why in the hell was I posturing in a neighborhood I lived in for 13 years? I wanted the owners to feel "safe". I wanted them to know I was one of them. When we left the store, my friend said, "I felt relieved when you asked for that cheese. You let them know we belonged." We both remarked about the absurdity in our taking care of these white folks. Our grown asses were still 'bowing'. We then went off to write a play about our experiences as black Artists. And, how we have to, consciously, not bow and twist to make white people feel comfortable.
I slipped. Most of the time, I don't take care of white people. I let them know, exactly, when they are being racist. Or, I walk away. It's their problem. Let them figure out why I walked away. But, if I'm in the mood, I will give them insight into their particular brand of racism. I spent a good deal of my undergrad years "trying to bridge the racial divide". It wore me out because racism comes out in the most insidious ways; in apathy, in deflection, in condescending tones, in ways you don't expect. So, I keep it simple. Right now, white people need to listen and dig deep into how their silence and comfort with their privilege - allows zimmermans to roam the streets killing black children.
And, for the ones who want to rage about black kids killing black kids, for me, it all springs from one well. The well of racism. Black people devalue black life because the larger culture does. Black self-hatred is as american as apple pie. And, unless and until someone brings it to your attention, you will be a purveyor of hate toward black people.
We have reached a point in history where the denial of racism appears to be the road to success for black people. Who is this helping? Certainly, it is not serving us. Clearly, the high rates of black unemployment speak to that. Where are our celebrities? President Obama's speech about race was akin to someone walking a tightrope in a circus. He was trying to keep his balance and not offend either side. Racism may affect both sides but, let me tell you, black folks are on the suffering side of the rope.
Why isn't there a coalition of celebrities, who stand together and issue a press statement about their pain at hearing the verdict. They don't have to indict anyone. They don't hate to pump their fists in the air. Just a word? An expression of grief? Hell, Trayvon and his family supported them in some way, I'm sure. But no, not a tweet. A press conference. A public statement. A simple acknowledgment that will let black children know that you see them and care about them and understand their frustration. We have to start honoring one another, and let go of the fear that we are alienating white folks. How many dollars do you need before you can stand upright?!
What's the worst thing that can happen? You are attacked by the Right? Economic marginalization? We are at a point in history where we have enough capital to create institutions. So, there is no need to possess the same level of fear and bowing that we had to enact to survive. Those days are over! Jamie Foxx, with his Trayvon t-shirt, was brilliance!
And, for the black folks who will say, "white folks will do what they will do. we need to just do for ourselves." Okay, I'm all for spending your money where you see fit. However, our lives intersect with theirs. Unless you are moving, which most of you won't (you stay here and complain about "whitey"), we need to squash this madness.
The trial for the murder of Darius Simmons is underway. Darius was a 13 year old black male who was shot by his neighbor who accused him of burglary. The defense is saying that the murderer did not have an "intent" to kill. Of the 12 jurors, one is black. And there is a video of the murder. Spooner is attempting to plead "insanity".
From the Milwaukee-Wisconsin Journal Sentinel: "Spooner has confessed to shooting Simmons, saying in statements to police on the scene, that he had reached a "breaking point" after his house was burglarized two days earlier. He suspected his teenage neighbor of carrying out the heist and gunned him down in front of his mother."
Aren't you tired? I'm exhausted. I'm tired of grieving. This has to stop. And, this is not about how much black men should contort and twist their bodies to behave. This is about a sickness in "white" minds who believe that a black male is a criminal. It is about a culture that reinforces the idea that black men have no value. We have to penetrate this mythology. Now. Not next year. Now. If white folks want to talk about 'race', let's do it. But, they have to bring something insightful to the table that will shift this stronghold of racism in the culture. The stories of how we die, how we suffer, are known. We need to dismantle the idea that white life is valuable and black life isn't. That can only happen when white people start sharing their honest thoughts - no matter how ugly and insulting.
We have to demand that white people speak up in discussions on racism, not race - racism. While we tell our thousandth story about being accosted, turn and ask a white person, "What are you learning from this? How will you change as a result of hearing this? How has the verdict impacted you and your life going forward? What will you do differently in your life, as a result of this verdict?" Something. The parade of black grief while white folks sit and stare has to cease. We did not create the conditions for our suffering.
We have to speak our truth, without fear, in order for change to happen in the culture. Witnessing the level of multi-cultural outrage at the verdict, I believe people are hungry for an earnest dialogue about racism. People are perplexed at how we got here and want answers. Those answers will not be pretty but we need to hear them. And, no, I don't believe that white people will volunteer their racism. Perhaps something akin to the 'truth and reconciliation committee' in South Africa. Simply, create a safe space for sharing racism. The interview that Anderson Cooper conducted with Juror B37 was brilliance. How he was able to get her to speak with such shocking frankness was instructive for all of us. We need more of that in order to understand how to deal with it. How we get there, I'm not sure. But, we must find a way.
Day after day I am seeing expressions of grief in my Facebook feed from my black friends. Every now and then, I will see a white person express their shock and disgust. The post I mentioned earlier, where the white woman called me "Honey," was met with a tirade from my white friends (and black, too). I did not prompt my white friends, they hopped on board. Let me tell you, I was grateful because I'm tired.
I am so heart broken over the dismissal of Trayvon's humanity that I don't know what I'm going to do next. I wondered where I could go to begin a one person 'Occupy Wall Street' movement. I feel the need to do something. After the verdict was delivered, I sat in silence for 60 minutes. I couldn't move. I was paralyzed. It is heartening to see the nationwide protests because it lets you know you are not alone. But, damn, this one hurts. The prosecutor was asked, in an interview, "what is one word you would use to describe Trayvon?". She was silent, thought deeply and said, "Prey. P-r-e-y. He never had a fighting chance." Here come the tears, again.
Look "forward without fear" people. What other choice do we have? I may not start a one person 'Occupy Wall Street' movement, but, I promise you, I will stop contorting my being to accommodate white neuroses. That's my new civil rights movement. Care to join me?
I posted the entire article.
"When-in-Rome" cultural caveats are wherever you go. We've recently learned not to wear the colors red or blue too prominently, and we've learned the meanings of certain ball caps, as gangstas perceive the wearers to be expressing enemy loyalties, and you might get beaten up or shot. Wow. I feel so put-upon.
Not to even mention (but I will anyway) the fact that WE can't even go into THEIR part of town, period.
So people need to get chips off shoulders and work on their own reputations.
What are you? Some kind of punctuacist?
Anything to avoid speaking THE truth, eh?
Trayvon, the racist druggie thug, reality bump
The Curious Case of Trayvon Martin, March 16, 2012
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/03/17/opinion/blow-the-curious-case-of-trayvon-martin.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
How Pulitzer-winning writer moved Trayvon Martin story from margins to mainstream, April 9, 2012
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Like Lee, the other two writers credited for bringing the story into the national spotlight are also African American and male: Charles M. Blow of The New York Times and Ta-Nehisi Coates of The Atlantic. Of the three, Lee is the only news reporter, Blow and Coates are columnists....
http://www.poynter.org/latest-news/making-sense-of-news/169323/how-pulitzer-winning-writer-moved-trayvon-martin-story-from-margins-to-mainstream/
Hey, that’s, pretty, good...
I'd much rather have 100 million more George Zimmermans than have even one more Trayvon Martins.
The trial for the murder of Darius Simmons is underway. Darius was a 13 year old black male who was shot by his neighbor who accused him of burglary. The defense is saying that the murderer did not have an "intent" to kill. Of the 12 jurors, one is black. And there is a video of the murder. Spooner is attempting to plead "insanity".From the Milwaukee-Wisconsin Journal Sentinel: "Spooner has confessed to shooting Simmons, saying in statements to police on the scene, that he had reached a "breaking point" after his house was burglarized two days earlier. He suspected his teenage neighbor of carrying out the heist and gunned him down in front of his mother."
Unlike Zimmerman, a white Hispanic initially thought to be a Jew in some quarters, who struck me as not guilty of killing the black teen, Trayvon. Those 12 jurors, 11 white, one black since we're counting, bound John Spooner, the old white guy, guilty of first degree homicide for murdering the black teen Darius Simmons. The old double white judge, white hair too, sent the white guy to prison for life without parole. I guess I just don't get the race stuff. What the article reveals to me about racism isn't complimentary vis a vis the author or individuals who look at the world through race polarizing sunglasses.
Find and dandy. Just don't be too shocked if you don't hear what you want to hear.
Blacks kill blacks because it’s whites fault. She doesn’t want to take responsibility for anything other than blame whites.
Apparently she went to the same school as Obama, Sharpton, Jackson, etc.
Is “taking care of” a translation of “beating the hell out of” in some obscure language of which I am not aware?
Kelly | September 4, 2013 6:25 PM
Bray D, I like your letter. You are talking from experience. Experience is the best teacher. I'd have to agree with you that tons of Whites get attacked, robbed, etc by Blacks-- depending on where you live. I agree that whom ever controls the media, tells Blacks that they are still being attacked by Whites at such a rate that we should be alarmed. Whites often take what they see Blacks do on t.v. ( aka entertainment, aka a job) and apply it to all of us. If Blacks applied that same thing to Whites they'd have tons of reasons not to trust too. Then again, they don't have to look at entertainment t.v.- Some White men think it's ok to steal millions of dollars from seniors, tuck it away in a safe account, go to jail for a little while and come back to live off others hard earned money....But I digress.
It's interesting that Blacks forget that at first they were sold by their own people. Now, they may not have known that the slaves were going to be treated in such a manner, but they were sold by other Africans first. They also forget that we are still strangers in a land that doesn't belong to us. We ARE outsiders. Until we fully assimilate into the majority culture we will NEVER be accepted. This is the way things are. Euro-centric culture has touched just about every surface and every ethnic group there is no running away.
I'm 5'2, brown-skinned and a woman. I have had white women grab their purses and walk fast or cross the street. I have had older white people say everything but the word, "nigger". I have had whites say " you're so articulate" ( which means that they assume that because I'm Black I don't know how to speak English). I've had white people surprised that I knew my childhood home (which I own) was built by world renown architect Frank Lloyd Wright. When I worked retail (My husband and I own our own business) I had whites refuse to hand me money and slam it on the counter ( I'd ever so graciously pick it all up, count it and HAND them their change). I've had white people do even worst to my brothers. I've seen the difference in how my brother was treated when he wore his military uniform and when he wore jeans and a button down. Is he supposed to wear his uniform whenever he walks the streets to get respect?
I've also seen blacks mistreating blacks. Blacks mistreating others. You'd think if life was so horrible you'd understand what someone else was going through (having been through it yourself) and act accordingly. We've all heard about the poor people crimes- drive-by shootings ( and getting the wrong person!), kids killing over material possesions, teens over gang affliations, selling drugs, using drugs, wearing the pants off the butt, doing poorly in school, Black women getting mad at white women- but being ok with sharing men with other black women, terrible customer service from a Black Woman...I could go on and on. And no, these are not issues that are exclusive to the Black community ( we still don't have a uni-bommer, or Columbine, or Gacy).
So yeah Blacks still have it bad, sometimes. Yep (some) White people hate Blacks. Some Whites fear Blacks ( everyone has the right to protect themselves if they feel threatened, and some Blacks are scary. I make sure my vehicle doors are locked while driving through certain parts of the city). Some Blacks wish things were fair. They won't be. Stop asking. It's their culture. If you ask a random White person, " what are your plans to hold a Black person back?" They'd probably look at you with disdain.
Because a person handling their business doesn't have time to worry about you and yours. That's your job. Whites MAY have it easier, because they are apart of the system. But if you asked them, they had to work in school, stay focused, compete, plan, they've had sorrows, pains, disappointments, people around discouraging them, deaths in their family, wronged by another human ( of their same race or different). It's called life. Stop asking for reparations they aren't going to give it to you. They will give it to everyone but you. I understand the idea, but so many people profited from the African Slave trade....who would pay first? how much would be paid? would it go to those that are 'Black' in America? People who haven't lived the American Black experience yet are called Black because they have a little tint? If it was money what would you do with it?
As for making them comfortable. If you're the odd ball it's your job to blend in. Or don't go. If you don't want them treating you crazy don't treat them crazy. So times the oppressed must be the example for the oppressor.
I'm not going to let some dummy's hate or worse-indifference stop me from living the life I'm supposed to live. Ignore the racist treatment, but love your neighbor. You may make all the difference in the world with Love. Remember that all of this nonsense is generalizations. My best friend is white. I love her. She loves me. I call her Mom "mom" ( and I have my own very good mother). And no one is going to tell me anything different.
“Apparently she went to the same school as Obama, Sharpton, Jackson, etc.”
That’s what I thought too.
Complete and thorough cognitive dissonance.
The writer refers to being acosted.
Well, I shop at certain stores and pretty much keep to myself. I notice when black people are looking at me, out of the corner of their eye, as I go behind them looking at wares.
This is no different than anyone else shopping and yet it recalls an experience where one black gal, who I hadn’t noticed walked quickly to me and stopping right in my path curtly blurtted out “I’m shopping!”.
I look around, not sure she is telling me this and smiling say “Good for you. Is that an accomplishment?”
She walked off and I quickly shook my head and went back to shopping.
WTF. Do I look like security?
If you are shopping why not consume yourself with the fun of looking at stuff and considering it an amusing way to spend your time?
Why bother me with your suspicions, which I think are largely synthetic?
They have gotten to the point where they are supporting encouraging and agreeing with the thug life style.
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