What Chinese-American Mothers Do Wrong (and Right)

Opinion Forum ^ | January 18, 2011 | Dr. Jim Taylor

[Tom Carter]

Have you read the article on wsj.com by Amy Chua, a Chinese-American mother (and law professor at Yale)? If not, you probably don’t have children. It is a must-read! I was both mesmerized and appalled by the article; like driving past a horrific car accident and wondering whether anyone survived. I realize that her article has lit up the blogosphere, but, as the author of three parenting books and the father of two girls myself, I just couldn’t resist tossing my two cents into the cyber-well.

[Tom Carter]

Amy Chua started a blogostorm with her extreme views on parenting and developing highly talented children. This article, by a practicing psychologist and author of several books on parenting, provides expert and often humorous insight on the issue.

[Dr. Ursus]

There’s a article in today’s New York Post written by one of
her daughters.

[pgyanke]

Bookmarked to read later...

[econjack]

Man, am I glad I wasn’t raised by her. I’d probably be buried in a shoebox in the back yard.

[Vehmgericht]

There are innumerable ways to raise a child. The “just about all child-development experts and the research on self-esteem suggest. . . “ approach, like many theories advocated by “experts,” does not appear to be going so well. Few, if any, parents have used perfect child rearing techniques. This woman has inflicted “wounds” on her daughters. Has a child ever grown to adulthood without “wounds?” They will suffer with their advanced degrees. Other will suffer as they sit on the stoop drinking wine from a bottle in a brown paper bag.

[longtermmemmory]

that law professor is a psycho. I do mean psycho.

Yes her daughter is a concert pianist but at what price?

This is just using motherhood love as emotional blackmail. (the kind of isolation and lack of love that turned young british lords at boarding schools into adult weirdos)

[Hulka]

Link, please.

Thanks.

[longtermmemmory]

for this child

suffering = love

insults = love

obedience = love

isolation = love

lack of self = love

She is going to be a real “interesting” adult in her human interactions if any.

[Aleya2Fairlie]

I’m at a loss to explain why anyone would entertain any of this woman’s assertions in light of the basis from which they have grown. Communist China has made its own misquided efforts to manipulate its population by inhumane and totalitarian rule. The results are a lopsided population that lacks the means to sustain itself, making the import of girls for sexual purposes mandatory for its pertpetuation. How sick to compare the barbarian practices of a Communist nation to “parenting”!

http://acc6.its.brooklyn.cuny.edu/~phalsall/texts/c-wnhol.html