Update for you bro.
Gimme a call this week so I can fill you in on the details.
WHY?
What are you going in for?
Meaning what type of job are they promising you?
Why do you want to join the Army? You do know that Muslim Brotherhood and other Islamics have infiltrated the entire govt, military, Pentagon and are leaking intel to Al Qeada and the Taliban on how to kill our troops more effectively.
All of TV supports Obama. I would not be joining they army when a m**lim is in control.
You have to do what YOU want, and what you think is right. I get along well with my in-laws, but in the early years of our marriage, I based some of my decisions on what my family thought. Now, I do what I think is right. Life is a never ending learning experience. You’ll make good decisions and bad decisions. If they are bad, the good thing about them is that they are learning experiences that you’ll profit from later on. Go with what your gut tells you. Good luck.
Two things....
1) you can’t pick your family
2) thanks in advance for your service to our country!
Sometimes it isn’t good timing to see relatives. Tell them you think your wife brought home the flu from work.
I congratulate you on your decision to join the military and wish you Blessings and God Speed.
As to your family situation. Can you email your father in law first and explain the situation to him? Sometimes it is easier to put it in writing and he can read it and there would be no face to face confrontation.
That would also help you test the waters, so to speak, and know what you should be prepared for, actually. You might end up nicely surprised.
If no emailing is possible...go there wrapped in a flag or the most patriotic get up you can muster. Dress like Uncle Sam or something. But something that would initiate a comment and questions from the other relatives about why you dressed that way. (Not just wearing a red shirt and blue pants but a real patriotic costume type outfit)
Then, you can reply to the family that you are dressed the way you are...because...and tell them about your enlistment plans. That should get you a lot of support and probably even the father in law would be softened and caught off guard and not going to make any nasty remarks about the daughter's job change. Just a thought, anyway. Good Luck.
Courtesy ping!
How old are you?
Is there some overriding reason you have to do this right this second rather than wait a couple of years for a hopefully better economy?
I admire your desire to serve, but this REALLY doesn’t seem like the right time to give up ANY stable job, let alone take a $10,000 hit in the bargain.
Your FReep page says you’re 29.
So why are you acting like a scared little kids - all worried about the approval of your parents and hers?
Sorry - I don’t mean to be unkind here - but you’re making a man’s decisions - and good for you! - so don’t get your knickers in a knot over what the parents may say.
At your age I would only join the air force and only as an officer candidate. Just my opinion.
Example - Infantry - 13 weeks for Basic and AIT. Not really that long a time period and NO reason for your wife to quit her job...
Give the guy a chance is my advice. You might be surprised.
Here’s my two cents. You can’t please everyone. As long as you and your wife have made this decision as the best one for you and your family, then it shouldn’t really matter what they think. You are the head of your household, not her Father. Although it’s always nice to have the blessing of family, it’s not necessary. You seem like a fine man. I hope this all works out for you. God Bless you.
HTX, you’re making a good move. Military life is a tought life, but you’ll get much more out of it than you can imagine. Getting an education while in the military is easier than it’s ever been. My husband is currently working for his BA. (He plans on finishing up during his next deployment to Afghanistan.) There are online classes and, in a few years, all that military experience will translate into college credits.
Moving your wife closer to family is a great move. She’s going to need their support over the next few years. For me, the hardest parts were the PCS moves. It was always easier when I was able to go home for a few months with the kids and let my husband close things out in the old place and set things up in the new.
Do you two have children? If not, do you plan to?