I read all this and more when I was trying to understand my sil..she is hell on wheels and an alcholic in the bargain. Lovely to be around..not. So to keep in touch with my brother, I write to him or email but hardly ever call on the phone and have not been back to TX in 10 years.
If a narcissist is in your family you have to make decisions and sometimes cutting them out is the best thing you can do for your own survival.
My son just divorced & got full custody of his kids, from an alcholic/narcissist. They infect the entire family, no one is spared their rath, lies, manipulations, it's 24/7 drama with them. There is no cure, no hope for them. They are right and everyone else is WRONG! Run, run fast if you think you're involved with one!!!
That's my desire for Obama -- just cut him out of my life, out of my government, and out of my business.