Hubby works with a guy who just found out this election that his wife of 7 years is a flaming lib. He swears he had no idea and is completely shocked at her views. I knew in the first 10 minutes of conversation with her the first time I met her. That was over 3 years ago. How can you NOT have any idea the political leanings of the person you’ve been living with for 7 years? And they don’t even have kids, so it’s not like they were distracted other people in the house.
It all comes down to how much agreement on politics is believed necessary to run a marriage. For some, that’s very important. Others don’t value political compatibility as much.
My wife and I have been married almost 32 years. Our children are outstanding people, even my liberal daughter.
My wife doesn’t vote. She just doesn’t care that much. She thinks the rich will do as they please, that there is nothing we can do, and that we’re a bunch of dopes for caring so much about something we can’t control. She’s from the “trust in God and live your life” school.